All of us learnt at a very young age to always be nice to each other and to practice kindness wherever you go but at the same time, no one ever taught us that sometimes people take things for granted. How do you know when it’s time to stop being nice and would that make you a bad person? At what point do you go, ‘is this worth it?’ after being stepped on and used so many times. Now, I’m not saying that you start being mean or start being a bully because that’s wrong, but you should learn where to draw the line at some point. Here are some few tips:
1. Standing up for yourself.
Everyone has a different set of values when it comes to moral values, whether it’s helping someone in trouble or protecting someone from harm. However, that’s different from someone who constantly pushes all their work on you and getting all the credit. Yes, it’s nice to help others but if they are just using you all the time for their own personal gain then it’s truly time to put your foot down.
2. Couch potato.
This most likely applies to those who are living with a lazy roommate and/or significant other. You are not their maid. Don’t sugar coat it as kindness because if you live in a house that the both of you are responsible for then they would have to put in that same effort. Don’t just let them walk all over you and whisper sickeningly sweet words to you just to ease your temper. No, let them know that they need to carry the weight of the burden too if you’re in it together.
3. Chivalry is dead.
A lot of people tend to lose sight of what chivalry means and what it stands for as they just throw this word everywhere to guilt trip someone into doing things for them. The dark history and origin of the term chivalry is a whole different story but regardless, it was used mostly as honour codes for the Knights in medieval France to show respect and gallantry towards women. Of course, being respectful towards women is important but this shouldn’t be used against men for a woman’s spoiled lifestyle all the time. Don’t break someone’s back trying to carry the weight of your luxuries and then getting mad at them when they finally break.
There are other examples, but I’ll let you off with these three for now. At the end of the day, kindness is important, and you should always be nice to your friends, your neighbours, your co-workers, and so on and so forth. Don’t forget that you are also a person who deserves to be treated with kindness in return. If some people don’t treat you kindly then you should first, treat yourself kindly. Don’t neglect yourself. Don’t talk down on yourself. Don’t abuse yourself.
On behalf of everyone, thank you for your kindness.